by anewman | Jun 25, 2026 | Change, Healing Work, Self-worth
Blog by Sholom— When taking a flight, the flight attendant always begins with the safety briefing. Inevitably, they arrive at the part about the oxygen masks. “If there should be a change in cabin pressure…put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.” Most of...
by anewman | Jun 15, 2026 | Acceptance, Being Real, Change, Choices, Courage, Healing Work, self-Identity, Self-worth
Blog by Sholom— The Damage Of Comparison In An Algorithm Age Comparison has always been a trap. But for men today, it’s no longer just an internal habit—it’s a system we’re immersed in. One designed to move, influence, and control us like products. We live in a world...
by anewman | May 10, 2026 | Acceptance, Being Real, Change, Choices, Courage, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom— You’ve been carrying something that was never meant to be permanent. Maybe it’s time to put it down. There’s a shadow that follows many of us into the room — into men’s spaces, into prayer, into the quiet moments before sleep. It’s the burden of the...
by anewman | Apr 23, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom—In my years of men’s work, there’s one four-letter word I’ve always carefully avoided. It’s caused me tremendous fear and has made my heart twist into knots. I’ve avoided it because of all it’s connotations and what I...
by anewman | Apr 7, 2026 | Healing Work
Blog by Rich Most people don’t realize how much of their life is quietly governed by one question: “What will they think of me?” That single concern shapes what we say, what we share, and what we hide. It influences how freely we show up—and how carefully we try to...
by anewman | Mar 29, 2026 | Being Real, Brotherhood, Change, Courage, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom— There’s a quiet lie many of us carry without even realizing it:If I’m healing, I should be getting better all the time. Stronger. Clearer. More in control. Less reactive. Always moving forward.But that’s not how real healing works. For the men doing...
by anewman | Mar 25, 2026 | Being Real, Courage, self-Identity, Self-worth
Blog by Sholom— There’s a not so fine line between being real or open and full exposure or brutal honesty. I’ve had countless conversations with others about how they have a desire to be completely open and honest with everyone about who they are. To share their deep...
by anewman | Mar 9, 2026 | Acceptance, Change, Choices, Core Needs, Healing Work, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom— When a man does his work and begins to understand himself better — his needs, his wounds, his longing for connection — a frightening question often arises: What if the people I love most will never be able to love me in the way I need? It’s a fair...
by anewman | Mar 5, 2026 | Change, Choices, Core Needs, Healing Work, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom— They say to write what you know, and unfortunately, I know. If you’ve ever wondered why we sometimes feel disconnected, unmotivated, or strangely numb during moments when we want to feel alive, there’s a simple — and slightly inconvenient —...
by anewman | Mar 4, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Courage, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom- Emotional Facades There’s a disconnect in the world we live in today from who we really are. I wear this mask for this friend and change for the next. We turn on this persona for work and then change who we are completely for play (if we play at all)....
