Frequently Asked Questions
Preparation & Confidentiality
What is A New Man?
A New Man is a groundbreaking, experiential workshop-retreat for men who are ready to face internal conflicts over their self-image, values, masculinity, sexuality, faith, and their relationships with women and with other men.
A New Man is designed to help you explore and heal underlying pain from the past that may be contributing to inner distress, interpersonal conflicts, and problematic thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in your life today.
We create a highly supportive yet challenging environment for men to address underlying core issues that may have resulted in painful internal conflicts.
It is not therapy. There is no “diagnosis,” no “treatment,” no counseling or advice-giving. It is, however, an intensive personal-growth workshop that is designed to touch deep emotions, raise self-understanding, and build self-esteem, assertiveness, and healthy personal boundaries.
A New Man is an experiential weekend. You won’t just sit and listen. You’ll actively participate, connect, and explore. We create opportunities for you to experience healing, growth, and brotherhood, not just talk about them.
What is an “experiential” workshop or retreat?
Experiential workshops primarily use active participation methods — live, personal experience — rather than lectures, discussion, or analysis as teaching methods. They use processes designed to enable self-discovery — to create “aha” moments of insight into one’s self, one’s behavior patterns, thinking patterns, and feelings.
Scores of organizations and individuals offer “experiential weekend” retreats or workshops each year for personal growth and empowerment, self-discovery, emotional healing, spiritual enlightenment, and more.
Examples of experiential processes at A New Man may include:
- Guided imagery (visualization)
- Emotional processing and release (especially around, anger, grief, or fear)
- Shame release
- Emotional role play (or a simplified kind of psychodrama that we call “guts work”)
- Inner-child work
- Profound, introspective questions
- Sentence stems
- Body awareness and connection (breathing, posture, etc.)
These types of processes tend to elicit much more profound self-awareness and dramatic, even cathartic emotional shifts than typical didactic teaching or dialogue ever could.
A typical feature of experiential learning of any kind is that processes are designed to be experienced, not revealed, discussed or analyzed before participation — or their impact is significantly diluted. Nevertheless, participants are repeatedly reminded that they can withdraw from any specific process at any time if it doesn’t feel helpful or authentic for them.
Does it work?
In our 20-plus years of offering inner-healing and personal-growth workshops for men, we have found that our programs can have a powerful, life-changing impact.
In following up with past participants over the years, we’ve regularly heard men say that as a result of their experience, they often:
- Feel more masculine, more confident, and more secure in their identity as men.
- Have more meaningful friendships and more support.
- Feel better about themselves overall and like themselves more.
- Report a decrease in unwanted or problematic sexual behaviors.
- Feel much less shame and less distress overall.
- Feel more grounded as men in their relationships with women.
- Are generally more at peace.
It is common for us to hear comments like these:
It was a life-changing experience. It has given me the opportunity to see myself as a man among men and to be confident in who I am as a man.
What is “guts work” and how does it help?
A New Man offers a simplified type of psychodrama or emotional role-play that we call “guts work.”
Psychodrama is taught at major universities as a means of helping people break through negative patterns of behavior and thinking and to break through painful, unresolved emotions.
At Brothers Road, our lead guts facilitators are highly experienced men who typically have facilitated or co-facilitated at least 100 guts processes in the past and usually have participated in special guts training workshops. Some are licensed counselors; most are trained lay people. They have also been observed by other, more experienced facilitators and have been recognized as skilled and effective.
“Guts work” has been the most significant part of building my understanding of myself, freeing me from shame, and building up my confidence as a man. What I like about guts work is that the man doing the work sets the agenda and the facilitator is there to follow the things that are coming up in the man. I’m still blown away by how powerful that work can be and the depth of insight into myself I can get through doing it. It’s incredibly beneficial.
Who runs A New Man and what are your qualifications?
A New Man is a new offering from Brothers Road, a diverse, peer-led, faith-affirming nonprofit that has more than 20 years of experience creating and facilitating breakthrough workshops for men. We are a community of men who support each other in becoming the healthiest, most authentic, most fulfilled men we can be. We have organized and presented more than 150 individual events in seven countries over the years.
A New Man will be facilitated by about 15 to 20 volunteers who have personally benefited from similar workshop-retreats in the past and have also done additional therapy or inner-healing / personal-growth work. They volunteer to return to “pay forward” the great benefit that they have gained in doing their own work
Senior volunteer facilitators typically have served on between 10 and 20 prior workshops and hands-on training with Brothers Road programs. Most have attended and staffed other organizations’ experiential healing programs as well.
A New Man was developed primarily by Rich Wyler, a professional life coach and group facilitator, in consultation with several professional counselors. Before organizing the first men’s workshop-retreat in 2002, Rich had already accumulated some 600 hours of experience, training, and practice facilitating in-depth self-discovery work.
Since then, some 40 licensed therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists from three countries — as well as many medical doctors and attorneys — have served on the volunteer teams running our programs and have personally affirmed their value and professionalism.
Registration & Fees
How much does it cost?
The full regular fee is $690, which includes:
- about 25 hours of training and facilitated processing
- two nights’ stay at the camp/retreat center
- six meals (Friday evening through Sunday lunch)
- a take-home workbook
- and three follow-up Zoom sessions after the program.
The full regular fee is due no later than 10 days before the start of the program
The early-registration fee is $525 — a savings of $165 — when you pay the full $525 more than six weeks before the start of the program.
Or, if you attend with a friend or family member, you can get the Brothers & Friends discounted fee of $850 for two men (equal to $425 each).
How do I sign up?
What is your refund policy?
- If you cancel 30 days or more before A New Man begins, your deposit and all registration fees are fully refundable. Typically, we will issue the refund AFTER the conclusion of the event by reversing the charge on your credit or debit card.
- If you cancel MORE THAN 10 days but FEWER THAN 30 days before A New Man: Your minimum required deposit of $250 is NOT refundable; however, we will refund you any amount you have paid above that.
- If you cancel 10 days OR FEWER before the event: Your deposit and registration fees are NOT refundable.
- We require all participants and staff-volunteers to take a Covid testabout 24 hours before arriving at the event. You must withdraw from attending if you test positive. (An at-home test is sufficient.) We will give you a full refund.
- If you have any Covid-like symptoms, you must stay home. We will give you a full refund.
- If you have been exposed to Covid too recently for a Covid test to determine yet whether you have the virus, please stay home. We will give you a full refund.
- We respect participants’ wishes related to social distancing and masking.
- We have medical professionals available to provide counsel to the weekend leadership as needed.
No other refunds apply, except on an exception basis approved by the executive director, Rich Wyler.
What about Covid?
Location, Time & Transportation
When will I get more detailed information from you?
After you have paid your deposit, or about 4 to 6 weeks before the event, we will send you an email with all the information you need.
If you have questions in the meantime or have not yet received the information, you can contact us at [email protected], or call 1-434-299-8696.
Where exactly will the program be held?
For security reasons, the location is CONFIDENTIAL for everyone except paid participants. Only those who have paid at least a full deposit will be sent information on the specific location. However, the names of the nearest airports are on the online registration form when you pay your deposit.
- The closest airports to the event are the Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport (PHX) (about 120 miles away) and the Tucson International Airport (TUS) (about 60 miles away). Phoenix is about a 2 ½ hour drive and Tucson is about a 1 ½ drive from the camp and conference center where we will hold the event.
- We start at 2 p.m. Friday and end about 5 p.m. Sunday.
This venue will give us sufficient privacy and provide a “retreat” environment set apart from normal day-to-day life.
Accommodations are not luxurious. Rooms are in a dorm setting with bunk beds. You will need to bring your own sleeping bag or other bedding.
Do I have to stay at the camp or retreat center? Can I stay off-site instead?
The residential experience of being together as a community in focused personal-growth space for the full 50 hours is an essential part of the experience. If you choose to leave the premises, you will not be allowed to return.
What time does it start? What time does it end?
We will start at 2:00 p.m. on Friday. Please do not arrive on site BEFORE 1:30 p.m. Please do not arrive on site AFTER 2:00 p.m. We expect to finish between about 4:30 and 5:00 p.m. on Sunday.
Please make your travel arrangements to accommodate this schedule. If you are flying, please be sure to allow enough travel time between the airport and the location.
Do you provide transportation assistance?
We help to coordinate carpools among participants who may be flying into the same airport or driving from the same direction, but ultimately you are responsible to get yourself to the camp/retreat center and back.
Preparation & Confidentiality
Is there anything else I need to do to prepare?
YES. After you register, and about 4 weeks before your JiM weekend, we will email you an instruction letter with links to the following:
- An online travel questionnaire to complete (to help us coordinate carpools, as needed).
- An online health and life-experience questionnaire.
- A link to electronically sign the Liability Release, Confidentiality & Other Agreements form.
What about confidentiality?
Confidentiality is extremely important to create a safe place to do deep emotional healing work. All participants must sign a strict confidentiality agreemen.
This commitment to confidentiality is also reiterated verbally, in person, at the start and again at the end of the weekend.
What will I need to bring with me?
- Legal identification, such as a driver’s license or passport. This is to help ensure that all participants are at least 21 years old and that no one is attending under false pretenses or signing release forms under a false identity.
- A sleeping bag and/or blankets and a pillow.
- Your personal effects and appropriate indoor/outdoor clothing. Rain gear is often recommended.
- Necessary prescribed or over-the-counter medications. If you have a history of asthma, please be sure to bring an inhaler.
- A towel, soap, sunscreen, bug repellent, and any other personal-care items you may require.
- A refillable water bottle with your name on it.
- Earplugs (highly recommended, in case of snoring).
What NOT to bring:
- Please leave all electronic devices at home or in your car when you arrive, including watches, mobile phones, and other devices. We ask you not to use them at all during the program. (Exception: electronic devices required for your health, such as a CPAP nighttime breathing machine.)
- The site does not allow food in the residential rooms. If you bring food (such as kosher food), it must be kept in the site’s kitchen.
- No alcoholic beverages. No recreational or illegal drugs or other substances.
- Anything that may distract you or others from our healing purpose.
During the Weekend
Can I call home or work during the weekend?
We ask you to agree not to make or receive phone calls during the weekend and in fact to leave your phone in your car throughout the entire workshop. This is to help everyone stay in the experience and focus on their personal work in the present, rather than to be distracted by what might be going on at home or work.
We will provide you with an emergency number that you can give to family members who may need to contact you in case of emergency only.
Possible exceptions for unusual circumstances can be discussed with the weekend leader once you arrive.
What if I don’t want to participate in one of the processes?
Your choices will be respected. We ask you to participate in every process, but no one will force you to do anything against your will. Anyone may choose to “pass” and not participate in a particular process. The staff may challenge you to consider the reasons behind your choice, but they will never force you or manipulate you into participating.
What if I want to leave early, or want to leave for part of the time?
The residential experience of being together as a community in focused personal-growth space for the full 50 hours is an essential part of the experience. We ask you to stay on site for the full program, from arrival on Friday afternoon to departure on Sunday late afternoon. If you choose to leave the premises, you will not be allowed to return.
Of course, anyone can to leave the program altogether, at any time, for any reason. Certainly, no one is required to stay who does not wish to continue with the program.
What if I have some physical limitations?
A New Man is not a very physically rigorous weekend. Most of our “work” will be indoors. We expect to be able to accommodate the physical limitations of participants, whether due to age, weight, physical fitness, health, or some type of disability. Of course, each man is responsible to take care of himself physically and to communicate his physical limitations to the staff, as necessary.
What if I have special dietary needs, or if I only eat kosher food?
When you register, one of the questions we will ask is about any special dietary requirements. Our cooks are typically able to accommodate most common dietary restrictions. In unusual cases, you may need to bring and prepare your own food and keep it in the kitchen.
Will my religious values be respected? Will my religious practices be accommodated?
Yes. While A New Man is not a religious retreat, we are a faith-affirming community. We welcome Christians of all denominations, Jews (orthodox, conservative, reform and non-observant), Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists and others. We are also respectful and welcoming of people who are agnostic or of no particular faith.
We strive to create a spiritual framework for deep personal-growth work where participants’ individual religious beliefs (or non-belief) are welcomed and may be incorporated into the individual work they may do, if they wish.
We teach the spiritual principal of “surrender” to God and his divine will, as part of a broader program of healing and growth. We never intentionally challenge anyone’s religious beliefs, or lack of belief, their morals or values. We do our best to work within a participant’s existing framework of spiritual beliefs and values.
We also make sincere efforts to accommodate requirements of Jewish Sabbath observance. Our senior staff men are quite familiar with Jewish Sabbath requirements.
What if I have another question that wasn’t addressed here?
Contact the administrator of Brothers on a Road Less Traveled, Tim, at [email protected] or 1-434-299-8696.