by anewman | Apr 23, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom—In my years of men’s work, there’s one four-letter word I’ve always carefully avoided. It’s caused me tremendous fear and has made my heart twist into knots. I’ve avoided it because of all it’s connotations and what I...
by anewman | Mar 29, 2026 | Being Real, Brotherhood, Change, Courage, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom— There’s a quiet lie many of us carry without even realizing it:If I’m healing, I should be getting better all the time. Stronger. Clearer. More in control. Less reactive. Always moving forward.But that’s not how real healing works. For the men doing...
by anewman | Mar 25, 2026 | Being Real, Courage, self-Identity, Self-worth
Blog by Sholom— There’s a not so fine line between being real or open and full exposure or brutal honesty. I’ve had countless conversations with others about how they have a desire to be completely open and honest with everyone about who they are. To share their deep...
by anewman | Mar 4, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Courage, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom- Emotional Facades There’s a disconnect in the world we live in today from who we really are. I wear this mask for this friend and change for the next. We turn on this persona for work and then change who we are completely for play (if we play at all)....
by anewman | Feb 24, 2026 | Being Real, Core Needs, Healing Work, Self-worth
Blog by Sholom- I once saw a meme that said something like, “the strongest people find the courage and the caring to help others, even if they are going through their own storm.” And sure, there’s truth to that — for some men. But I’ve come to see another side...
