by anewman | Apr 23, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom—In my years of men’s work, there’s one four-letter word I’ve always carefully avoided. It’s caused me tremendous fear and has made my heart twist into knots. I’ve avoided it because of all it’s connotations and what I...
by anewman | Mar 29, 2026 | Being Real, Brotherhood, Change, Courage, Healing Work
Blog by Sholom— There’s a quiet lie many of us carry without even realizing it:If I’m healing, I should be getting better all the time. Stronger. Clearer. More in control. Less reactive. Always moving forward.But that’s not how real healing works. For the men doing...
by anewman | Mar 9, 2026 | Acceptance, Change, Choices, Core Needs, Healing Work, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom— When a man does his work and begins to understand himself better — his needs, his wounds, his longing for connection — a frightening question often arises: What if the people I love most will never be able to love me in the way I need? It’s a fair...
by anewman | Mar 5, 2026 | Change, Choices, Core Needs, Healing Work, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom— They say to write what you know, and unfortunately, I know. If you’ve ever wondered why we sometimes feel disconnected, unmotivated, or strangely numb during moments when we want to feel alive, there’s a simple — and slightly inconvenient —...
by anewman | Mar 4, 2026 | Being Real, Change, Choices, Courage, self-Identity
Blog by Sholom- Emotional Facades There’s a disconnect in the world we live in today from who we really are. I wear this mask for this friend and change for the next. We turn on this persona for work and then change who we are completely for play (if we play at all)....
by anewman | Feb 25, 2026 | Addiction, Brotherhood, Change, Choices, Core Needs, Healing Work, Male Bonding
Blog by Sholom- When Friendship Becomes a Burden For many men, close friendships man can feel like a sanctuary — a place where we’re finally understood and seen for who we truly are. But sometimes, that same, beautiful closeness turns into something heavier — a...
